No. 1 // We Out Here. Now What?
I've given a lot of thought about how to use this space. About how to tell our story - the triumphs, the lows, the in-betweens - in a way that does justice to it. Mostly as a record for our sake; to remember the journey to our Mini Oho when those days are behind us and we're in a fog of parenthood. But the thought occurred to me that maybe it could be bigger, too. Infertility. Adoption. Faith. Grief & Loss. Premature Menopause. Good days and bad days and how sometimes it's both at the exact same time. You know... The type of topics that rarely come up at dinner parties because it's not always rainbows and sunshine and unicorns. (I'm a fun person, I swear.)
But as the years tick on and the older I get (and feel), the more I want to talk about those topics openly. Just as I found a community of women who had/were experiencing infertility when I swallowed my fear of vulnerability and started conversations about it, I believe the vulnerability creates a pathway to community with couples and families and just all human beings who have experienced hardship of some kind (which...is all of us, right?).
To be clear, this isn't about the sadness or the (capital) F-E-E-L-I-N-G-S. There will be that, because it wouldn't be honest writing without it, but even in the midst of darkness, there was always light. There was always hope. There was always God.
There was and is still so much beauty, even in the difficult times. And that is the story I want this little corner of the web to tell.
(And, yes, absolutely there will still be plenty of Oho-style adoption updates along the way. Because we are PUMPED to be that much closer to our Mini Oho and want you to be pumped too.)
PS - if you are a couple waiting to adopt, I'd love to hear your story and pray for you and cheer you on. Send me a message, leave me a comment or shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.